It's been a year i think, since my last post and i wonder whether the reason for the gap is having too much to say or too little to say, but i guess mostly in my case it is the former :-)
So i took the time to pick just one thing at a time... and today i chose this thought' "always be true to yourself"
Though a lot of us come across as knowing what we want and being able to say it so to the world as well as to the people closest to us (that can be more difficult actually), i think we still chose to say not exactly what we want to say.
For a number of reasons, we either colour our thoughts, or guise them or simply put sugar-coat them or sometimes we even say the exact opposite of what we rehearsed in our minds a moment ago. I think i can claim that without exception we all find ourselves in this state at some point.
The time after this is the most excruciating for most because we have communicated something other than what we wanted to actually say and there fore there is a whirlwind of emotions running through our heads - some going over the conversation and others concerning the reaction.
My conclusion: simple-sounding but tough to apply every time is to just let yourself be, allow yourself a POV of your own and express it as truthfully as possible. Yes it could be hurtful at times but i guess being tru to yourself and to the other, even at the cost of hurting is better than being deceitful. For the other doesn't even know your true opinion and you on the other hand have to deal with not just being stuck with your opinion in your throat but you are also left with a taste of your own deceit in the mouth.
Toh phir dil khol ke sach bolo aur gale ki kharash se bache raho ;-)
So i took the time to pick just one thing at a time... and today i chose this thought' "always be true to yourself"
Though a lot of us come across as knowing what we want and being able to say it so to the world as well as to the people closest to us (that can be more difficult actually), i think we still chose to say not exactly what we want to say.
For a number of reasons, we either colour our thoughts, or guise them or simply put sugar-coat them or sometimes we even say the exact opposite of what we rehearsed in our minds a moment ago. I think i can claim that without exception we all find ourselves in this state at some point.
The time after this is the most excruciating for most because we have communicated something other than what we wanted to actually say and there fore there is a whirlwind of emotions running through our heads - some going over the conversation and others concerning the reaction.
My conclusion: simple-sounding but tough to apply every time is to just let yourself be, allow yourself a POV of your own and express it as truthfully as possible. Yes it could be hurtful at times but i guess being tru to yourself and to the other, even at the cost of hurting is better than being deceitful. For the other doesn't even know your true opinion and you on the other hand have to deal with not just being stuck with your opinion in your throat but you are also left with a taste of your own deceit in the mouth.
Toh phir dil khol ke sach bolo aur gale ki kharash se bache raho ;-)
I agree!!! And.. if you can't handle the truth when you're saying it to yourself, how will you ever to anybody else??
ReplyDeleteSo muster the courage and for once, be brave to be who you are! Trust me, you'll love yourself
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Wah Wah!
ReplyDeleteTotally agree..reminds me of my personal motto in life (stolen from Infosys God Narayana Murthy.."A clear conscience is the softest pillow that one can sleep on" Great thoughts Sudha...keep them coming...Kunju
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