Its been a while since i put down my thoughts...quite a while actually.... When i started this blog, i was told... the most difficult thing about a blog is to sustain it. Well i didnt do a great job of that but if i didn't share today's post it would be a shame....
Love thy children completely:
No, i don't mean pamper them and give them what they ask for... but just like the almighty does with us... always give them what they need.
Sixteen years ago I was blessed (truly so) with my son. We went through all the joy, the discomfort, the pain of newborness, toddlerness, first years in school together. Then as he turned 8, we figured that he had this minor disorder called Dyslexia. And initially we thought, ok he'd have a slight difficulty in learning concepts the way they're taught is regular schools, so we'll help him and get him all possible help and it will be fine.
So we got him help from remedial educators while he continued in his regular school, but it did not translate into any improvements in his academic performance. For five years after that we tried a combination of remedial educators and tuition teachers but the marks weren't going northwards at school.
The school though was extremely supportive and helpful in guiding us through this hurdle but like a typical south indian mother i was concerned about his academic performance and am sure it rubbed off on his confidence and self esteem. Then the situation changed... I was guided to realize that the support he required was from home, from me.
So, from a full time working woman, i became a full time teaching mom. Again, thank God for that day and that moment when i took this decision. Almost four years later, my son has now cleared his ICSE exams with 88% marks and I have passed with flying colours!
So, why am I boasting about it... because of a need to share. My entire generation is the working couple generation and often i hear people say. 'OMG! My son is 18!!! My daughter is 20!!! Time flies by so fast' And soon after that the children have flown away too...
Yes life is more complicated today, inflation is sky-rocketing, you need to invest for your future.... Invest yes but smartly. Your children could either be your biggest investments or society's biggest liability. If they grow up to be strong and happy individuals they will collectively make this world a better place. And we can enjoy a secure retirement. For that though we parents need to invest our time and sincere efforts into their childhood.... into our next generation.
Today i realise it was not because i was a typical south indian mom that i thought about his academics only. It was not because I was the woman that i decided to stay home. It was because he had the dream to engineer or design at a global level, he dreamt of working for FERRARI or NASA or LEGO and somewhere the mother inside me knew that if he could dream of that he could very well achieve it with the right support. My frustration was that his IQ level clinically tested was higher than most children of his age and yet he didnt do well enough in his studies and that looked like it will break off the ladder that lead to his dream, his passion.
and that is why (taking inspiration from my mom who sacrificed for us) I quit my job, set up a blog for him to share his hobby: amazing Lego creations of his own to boost his confidence. Then i started studying with him. And after 3 grueling years he has tasted success and i am satisfied i did my job.
We all love our children, but how many of us have faith in them and show it to the mand to the world. This is the least we owe them. (While we are at it let's try giving them more respect as they grow - this a huge one because it boost their esteem and helps establishes a special bond which is sure to last a lifetime)
My meek little boy is growing up to be a confident young man and once again thank God for those angels, in the form of various lovely people around me mainly my family and my parents who decided 45 years ago that my mother will quite her job to raise my brother and I, thus guiding me along the right path towards the best decision of my life.
Do this much for your children... stay at home one of you, PLEASE :-) And be sure you that in time, will be rewarded in ways you can't even imagine. Happy Birthday my son, thanks for giving birth to me.
Love thy children completely:
No, i don't mean pamper them and give them what they ask for... but just like the almighty does with us... always give them what they need.
Sixteen years ago I was blessed (truly so) with my son. We went through all the joy, the discomfort, the pain of newborness, toddlerness, first years in school together. Then as he turned 8, we figured that he had this minor disorder called Dyslexia. And initially we thought, ok he'd have a slight difficulty in learning concepts the way they're taught is regular schools, so we'll help him and get him all possible help and it will be fine.
So we got him help from remedial educators while he continued in his regular school, but it did not translate into any improvements in his academic performance. For five years after that we tried a combination of remedial educators and tuition teachers but the marks weren't going northwards at school.
The school though was extremely supportive and helpful in guiding us through this hurdle but like a typical south indian mother i was concerned about his academic performance and am sure it rubbed off on his confidence and self esteem. Then the situation changed... I was guided to realize that the support he required was from home, from me.
So, from a full time working woman, i became a full time teaching mom. Again, thank God for that day and that moment when i took this decision. Almost four years later, my son has now cleared his ICSE exams with 88% marks and I have passed with flying colours!
So, why am I boasting about it... because of a need to share. My entire generation is the working couple generation and often i hear people say. 'OMG! My son is 18!!! My daughter is 20!!! Time flies by so fast' And soon after that the children have flown away too...
Yes life is more complicated today, inflation is sky-rocketing, you need to invest for your future.... Invest yes but smartly. Your children could either be your biggest investments or society's biggest liability. If they grow up to be strong and happy individuals they will collectively make this world a better place. And we can enjoy a secure retirement. For that though we parents need to invest our time and sincere efforts into their childhood.... into our next generation.
Today i realise it was not because i was a typical south indian mom that i thought about his academics only. It was not because I was the woman that i decided to stay home. It was because he had the dream to engineer or design at a global level, he dreamt of working for FERRARI or NASA or LEGO and somewhere the mother inside me knew that if he could dream of that he could very well achieve it with the right support. My frustration was that his IQ level clinically tested was higher than most children of his age and yet he didnt do well enough in his studies and that looked like it will break off the ladder that lead to his dream, his passion.
and that is why (taking inspiration from my mom who sacrificed for us) I quit my job, set up a blog for him to share his hobby: amazing Lego creations of his own to boost his confidence. Then i started studying with him. And after 3 grueling years he has tasted success and i am satisfied i did my job.
We all love our children, but how many of us have faith in them and show it to the mand to the world. This is the least we owe them. (While we are at it let's try giving them more respect as they grow - this a huge one because it boost their esteem and helps establishes a special bond which is sure to last a lifetime)
My meek little boy is growing up to be a confident young man and once again thank God for those angels, in the form of various lovely people around me mainly my family and my parents who decided 45 years ago that my mother will quite her job to raise my brother and I, thus guiding me along the right path towards the best decision of my life.
Do this much for your children... stay at home one of you, PLEASE :-) And be sure you that in time, will be rewarded in ways you can't even imagine. Happy Birthday my son, thanks for giving birth to me.
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